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gwaevalarin) wrote2012-03-23 07:21 am
gwaevalarin) wrote2012-03-23 07:21 am
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In Which I Seem To Jump To A Different Conclusion Than Everyone Else
I'm slightly afraid to even post this after seeing the reactions on tumblr. A lot of them from people whose opinon I rate very hightly, and who I usually agree with.
I've seen a lot of rage about the spoiler that Castiel is married. Not butthurt shipper rage, but genuine concern about consent issues. I'm not saying they are unfounded. I hear the reasons. Obvious plot holes aside, I just... can't really understand them.
For the sake of this, I'm assuming that Daphne is just who she seems to be. A normal girl, and a real love interest.
I admit I know next to nothing about amnesia and how it affects a person. I'm not a doctor, and I never had to deal with anyone suffering from amnesia of any kind.
I can just try to imagine the most straight-forward scenario:
Castiel crawls out of that lake, confused, no memories, and Daphne happens to find him, and she brings him to a hospital. That's where she could leave, or just check in once or twice to hear if he is okay considering, but she is a kind girl, and it would just feel wrong, and she sticks around.
It turns out that no one knows who he is and how he ended up where he did - which, erm... Jimmy? - and somehow Daphne feels responsible for him because she was the one who found him and the human mind is weird like that, so she decides to help him deal with his situation, no hidden agenda at all.
Well, thing is, Castiel (or Emmanuel) doesn't have anyone beside her. He doesn't know where to start looking either, and there is this part of him that doesn't want to remember who he was even though he doesn't know why.
She doesn't push him into trying to find out more, even though he has those weird abilities that kinda freak her out a little. Instead she encourages him to put them to use. Partly because she believes it will be good for him, and partly because she's starting to feel like she is suffocating with him sitting around and just staring all day. So Emmanuel becomes a healer, and Daphne can go back to her own life for a bit. She still makes sure he is as okay as can be expected, without finding herself on the edge of wishing she had never gotten herself into this more often than not.
A few months pass, and they both start to realise how much they care for each other. Maybe it is mainly the circumstances, maybe it is more. It's not that simple, but they had enough complicated. So yeah, maybe Daphne doesn't know who Emmanuel was, but she knows everything about who he is right now. And maybe Cas doesn't remember who he was, and he can't know if his former self would agree, but his self right here, right now does consent.
And yes, it's a little weird that they are married after such a short time. I'm thinking maybe Castiel was a little desperate to start new and leave his old life behind for reasons he doesn't understand but feels very strongly about. And maybe Daphne should have seen this and said 'Stop. We're not doing this for the right reasons.' But she is human, and those months were tough for her too. So she's in a bit of denial, and a little overwhelmed with everything, and a little too stupidly in love with these deep blue eyes, but she is certainly not pressuring him into anything he - his current self - doesn't want (or at least claims to want, no matter how often she asks him if he is sure).
Bottom line, when I read the spoiler, I did think that the "married" part was weird after only a few months, but mainly I'm just glad that, at least in the best case scenario, Cas found someone who cared when he crawled out of that lake alone and broken.
All the pain the show will put him through, now that he has the Winchesters back in his life, are a completely different topic. As is my concern that, should Daphne really turn out to be who they try to make us believe she is, she'll probably be dead by the end of the episode just to add more pain to the huge pile that is already there.
I also believe that things will turn out completely different from the way they sound right now, and certainly different from the scenario I describe here, but a speculation for tonights episode was hardly the point of this post.
Also, before you decide that I'm a horrible person for not having issues with the storyline per se, take into consideration that I have been growing up in the safest little bubble you can possibly imagine, and I'm probably just terribly naive.
I've seen a lot of rage about the spoiler that Castiel is married. Not butthurt shipper rage, but genuine concern about consent issues. I'm not saying they are unfounded. I hear the reasons. Obvious plot holes aside, I just... can't really understand them.
For the sake of this, I'm assuming that Daphne is just who she seems to be. A normal girl, and a real love interest.
I admit I know next to nothing about amnesia and how it affects a person. I'm not a doctor, and I never had to deal with anyone suffering from amnesia of any kind.
I can just try to imagine the most straight-forward scenario:
Castiel crawls out of that lake, confused, no memories, and Daphne happens to find him, and she brings him to a hospital. That's where she could leave, or just check in once or twice to hear if he is okay considering, but she is a kind girl, and it would just feel wrong, and she sticks around.
It turns out that no one knows who he is and how he ended up where he did - which, erm... Jimmy? - and somehow Daphne feels responsible for him because she was the one who found him and the human mind is weird like that, so she decides to help him deal with his situation, no hidden agenda at all.
Well, thing is, Castiel (or Emmanuel) doesn't have anyone beside her. He doesn't know where to start looking either, and there is this part of him that doesn't want to remember who he was even though he doesn't know why.
She doesn't push him into trying to find out more, even though he has those weird abilities that kinda freak her out a little. Instead she encourages him to put them to use. Partly because she believes it will be good for him, and partly because she's starting to feel like she is suffocating with him sitting around and just staring all day. So Emmanuel becomes a healer, and Daphne can go back to her own life for a bit. She still makes sure he is as okay as can be expected, without finding herself on the edge of wishing she had never gotten herself into this more often than not.
A few months pass, and they both start to realise how much they care for each other. Maybe it is mainly the circumstances, maybe it is more. It's not that simple, but they had enough complicated. So yeah, maybe Daphne doesn't know who Emmanuel was, but she knows everything about who he is right now. And maybe Cas doesn't remember who he was, and he can't know if his former self would agree, but his self right here, right now does consent.
And yes, it's a little weird that they are married after such a short time. I'm thinking maybe Castiel was a little desperate to start new and leave his old life behind for reasons he doesn't understand but feels very strongly about. And maybe Daphne should have seen this and said 'Stop. We're not doing this for the right reasons.' But she is human, and those months were tough for her too. So she's in a bit of denial, and a little overwhelmed with everything, and a little too stupidly in love with these deep blue eyes, but she is certainly not pressuring him into anything he - his current self - doesn't want (or at least claims to want, no matter how often she asks him if he is sure).
Bottom line, when I read the spoiler, I did think that the "married" part was weird after only a few months, but mainly I'm just glad that, at least in the best case scenario, Cas found someone who cared when he crawled out of that lake alone and broken.
All the pain the show will put him through, now that he has the Winchesters back in his life, are a completely different topic. As is my concern that, should Daphne really turn out to be who they try to make us believe she is, she'll probably be dead by the end of the episode just to add more pain to the huge pile that is already there.
I also believe that things will turn out completely different from the way they sound right now, and certainly different from the scenario I describe here, but a speculation for tonights episode was hardly the point of this post.
Also, before you decide that I'm a horrible person for not having issues with the storyline per se, take into consideration that I have been growing up in the safest little bubble you can possibly imagine, and I'm probably just terribly naive.